Be The Independent and Appreciative

From being a girl to a lady, I always be the independent one. I do not have a driving license, hence I do not count on anyone to bring me here and there. I choose to find my own way, or choose not to go 😂

But hardly deny. Father is the one who sacrifice a lot to bring me here and there without me requesting for that. Boyfriend seldom fetch me here and there, first because he is originally from Sabah, he is not familiar with the roads here. Secondly he is not the person who likes driving, thirdly he is not good at directions. LOL

I don't complain much because I used to that. Haha. But he is trying his best. Some girls may find this as a criteria to look for a bf though. Forget about it girls, not all guys have that responsibilities to fetch you okay? They are your bf, not your driver/ chaffeur. Be appreciative, look in to what they are good at, do not just focus on what they do not have in themselves. They are human too, they are not perfect. And you are not perfect also.

Yesterday I asked my man whether I can travel from klia2 to find him at his work place, and ask him to send me back to klia2 at night, can see that he is hesitating. Hmmm. I just miss him and wanted to see him. By looking at his face, I said never mind with a not so happy face of course. But he said it is dangerous to travel alone just to meet him. His reason is about my safety. Hmmmm. Same as what you are thinking, this is an excuse.

After all, I decided to go for a movie alone at Paradigm Mall (because there is direct bus from klia2 to Paradigm Mall). Not so dangerous at all though. Hahaha. I texted him  about my plan when I am preparing to go out. Immediately he said, later I fetch you when you arrive, wait for me to finish work, we go for movie together.

See! I am curious what makes him decided to do so instead of saying yes to me yesterday. I asked him whether I am independent girl. His answer is funny "Nope, you are selfish". I laughed it off because the answer is unexpected. He said I never think of my own safety. Lol. I asked why not he just say yes to my plan yesterday night and today morning he immediately agreed with that. He said no choice, you have decided to come, I can't stop you anymore.

Hahahahaha. At least for now I will not think that yesterday he gave me an excuse but he really worry about my safety. He is just being sweet and caring. I appreciate that a lot. All these can be seen through his daily actions, not only by him saying that. Oh ya, I thought I may need to take a taxi there, but he called and said I fetch you later once you arrive within my one hour break. Another extra point scored! Hahaha.

Girls, points can be scored in anytime anywhere okay. Do not pressure yourselves by saying your bf not loving you as much as you want. They did okay :) Enjoy every single moment.

And I have learnt a lesson, when bf said so, do not doubt it like what I did yesterday night. Appreciate everything that he does 🙆

Understanding and Trust

My colleague always questioned me that why I have so much of trust towards my man. We have own jobs, he is at Puchong and I am at klia2. We meet each other around 4 times a month. He might doing something behind me that I do not know. Literally my colleague wants to say my man might cheat on me because we are away from each other.

Come on lah. I am not a fairy that know everything okay. If he wanted to cheat on you, no matter he is sleeping beside you everyday or he is million miles away from you, he can still cheat on you. If he doesnt, just believe that he does not. Need not to question so much on your partner regarding to trust issue. Because if I am about to find out, I will able to find out.

However, you may still ask why dont you bother? I do care about that as well, and I am afraid that losing him also. But, you yourselves do not like people ask you "do you love me?" every single day right? Because deep in your heart you will answer "I love you, why question my love towards you." Yes. Same goes to your partner. They may not need you to question them, they will see the trust in you. They can see how well they manage this relationship and make you know that they love you so freaking much. I do ask my man sometimes, but he will patiently answer me "Baby, I love you very much. Please do not question my love. Why do I bother to give up on my relationship and find a new one. No worries." 

But the first thing is, get a patient boyfriend/husband. And you dont be the person who always have trust issue. First you need to be understanding, secondly your partner need to be patient. Vise versa. Sometimes you may have a gentle reminder to your partner such as "just remember me in your heart okay? And please miss me." Be gentle, dont be harsh.

Most important thing is trust your love one. No one like to be question. When he loves you, just trust him that he will always love you. If he cheats on you, say bye and move on, he is not the one. Take a lesson and go for a better one.

Be With The Man Who Commit Only When He Is Ready

You may ask how easy to get a commitment from your partner, not easy though.

But, do you ever think that why some able to do so?

I love my man, and I always know that he loves me too.

We discuss about our future, we discuss about our plans. Yes, ours.

For my own experience, I believe that when you have enough love towards this one person, you will commit to your relationship. I still remember the first year we first coupled, I asked him why dont he say he will marry me? He said:" I am not ready yet, I dont want to give any commitment, I dont want to disappoint you as we dont know what will happen in the future." I accepted the answer. 

But for now almost five years we been together, he always said that he just can't wait to be financially stable so that he can marry me. It feels warm in the heart. How this man can change so much and even give that much of commitments from every single words he said. We include each other in our future plans. We just cant leave each other out of our life. 

Girls, when he is not ready, do not force him. Be an understanding one. Not that he does not love you, but just need more to reach the level of commit. When he is ready, he will do so. If a man can simply just commit to you and say that he will marry you without any hesitation, think twice. He might not be the one. He might just tell this to any other girls out there. 

How if you yourselves not ready to commit? Tell him. He should understand as well. He should not force you to commit, because it will make you feel extra stressful in this relationship. Besides that, ask yourselves what is lacking in this that caused you not ready to commit. It can be you think that he is not the one. It can be you have feelings towards another person. It can be you are not happy in current relationship. Anyhow, find a way to help yourselves and your partner.

Some couples prefered to commit first in their relationship, only they work hard on their commitments. I may not love you as much as I love my ex-girlfriend, but since there is commitment, let's try to love my current girlfriend more. And slowly they build their relationship with commitments based.

For me, I know I got the one who can commit to me and I, myself will not hesitate to commit more on that. We know what we want and what we need in this relationship. Most important is that I can truly see his sincerity by looking at the way he commits and the way he loves.